Eliminate Negative Self-talk and Reprogram Your Inner Dialogue

​Self-talk... stop for a moment and listen to yours for a brief period of time. Is your inner dialogue filled with negativity and expecting positive outcomes? 

We all have those days when we are stressed, running late, spill coffee on our crisp, white shirt prior to making that important presentation. The inner critic immediately blurts, “Seriously! I can’t believe you’re such a blundering idiot!!
 
Humans are hardwired by nature towards negative thinking. It dates back to our ancestors safeguarding our survival so that we recognize and avoid survival. Many of us also grew up with the belief that having a negative attitude towards life and self was normal in order to protect us. 

Listen to your self-talk for a day. How do you talk to yourself?  To others?  Do you have your brief blundering moments, or is it an incessant negative dialogue?

If another person spoke to someone you loved the way you dialogue with yourself, you would likely get a bit angry or defensive.  Yet with internal negative self-talk, our self-defense mechanism is non-existent.

​Some of us need to reprogram and re-train our brain so that positivity becomes our new automatic response. Positive affirmations and self-talk do work but it takes persistence and taking notice of the conversation that exists in the subconscious and conscious mind.

Following are five fundamental tips to help you eliminate negative self-talk and begin changing your inner dialogue...

1. ​Awareness - Be aware of any negativity that exists either in your conscious programming or in your discussions with others.  Stop and listen.  What is your inner and outer dialogue?  “I'm so stupid” “I never get...” “I am not enough… “I don’t have enough money…”
2.  Replace - Watch your self-talk. Now that you are aware of your language, replace the negativity with positive language.  When you catch yourself talking negative about yourself or others, simply stop and turn it around with a positive statement. Repeat the positive statement several times out loud, if possible, to reinforce. Literally wash away negativity and replace negativity with optimism, joy, serenity, love.  “I am so sensible, practical, aware” “I always get things done,  “I am enough… “I have enough money…” “I am abundant” "I am worthy, I love, I will, I can, I do...."
3. Remove “should” statements from your language. Every time we use the word “should” we are in effect saying that we are wrong or will be wrong. “Must” and “ought” are also offenders and the emotional consequence is always guilt. When we target these statements at either ourselves or others, we are left feeling angry, frustrated and resentful. If you catch yourself using should, ought or must, try replacing with the word “could” as it provides more freedom of choice, and then you are never wrong. This may take some conscious programming as many of us have it embedded into our subconscious from when we were young.   
4. Cleanse yourself of negativity daily.  Toxicity surrounds us with people and through social media. Avoid drowning yourself in too much news each day. Get the highlights and turn off the constant daily stream. Studies show that social media increases self-criticism. Every now and then turn it off and take a break. Shield and surround yourself with good energy, people and positive experiences.  You will be much lighter, happier and positive as a result.
5. Love yourself unconditionally– this is the most important of all. If you don’t love yourself, how can you love anyone else and how can others love you? Negative thinking typically points back to ourselves, either consciously or unconsciously.  Whether we are a negative thinker blaming ourselves or someone else, this typically extends to our own inadequacies. It is rooted in low self-worth. Elevate your value system to unconditional love. Learning to love yourself unconditionally allows you to unconditionally love others. By elevating your self-treatment to a standard that aligns with your value system, your environment will follow suit. This is the law of attraction in action.  

So tap into the law of attraction to align with the energy of abundance and create more opportunities in your life. 

• A positive inner dialogue results in positive vibrations
• Positive vibrations attract positive outcomes
• The healthier your internal “chatter,” the healthier your whole life will become – mind, body and spirit.

 
And next time you notice negativity creeping into your thoughts, you now have the tools to respond and react differently. Awareness is the first step. Rid yourself of negativity and choose a happy, positive life!   You are worthy!

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